Perceptions From Others
Marriage is a funny thing. As soon as you enter into it others refer to you as "the wife" or "the husband". For instance, today I was referred to as "the wife" by hubby's friend. Weird. I don't define myself as a wife but somehow others seem to define me this way. It's not that I find it offensive since people tend to do this for all sorts of characteristics. Ie. "the blonde", "the shorty", "the Canadian", etc. It's funny how once you're married then that's what seems to be a predominant part of your identity to others unless you don't let people know that you're married.
Another funny thing I've noticed is that because I look young for my age people don't expect me to be married. I've had a few instances since getting married that people are surprised that I'm married. Often they assume that I came from a traditional family and that I got an arranged marriage. You should see their faces when I tell them that I did not get an arranged marriage and that it was not to a person of Indian descent.
People tend to assume things by first perception. I don't bother getting offended unless I'm either in a bad mood or can tell that they're just an asshole. I usually just brush it off and hope that I will be an example for them to live by to not judge a book by its cover.
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