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Ams, June 11, 2011 at 3:56 PM
Over the last few months something has been happening more and more often. People keep confiding very personal information about themselves with me or asking me for advice on personal issues. This has happened before I got married but I've noticed that it has been happening much more frequently after I got married. I'm not really sure of the reason and when I mentioned this to others they told me it's probably because being married I'm seen as a safe person to talk to. Hmm...interesting. I'm not sure how to take that or how to understand it. Is it because being married is interpreted as an indication of maturity or wisdom? Maybe people think I have my life more figured out than them because I'm married? That is totally not true btw, but I guess maybe to someone who isn't married they would look at me as a person who has taken care of certain life goals before them.
Anyway, it's just an observation I've made. I really don't mind people confiding in me as I am a pretty good secret keeper. It's also been giving me the opportunity to listen, which is a skill I've been wanting to work on. I tend to blab out advice before people ask for it, and I know how annoying it can be when others do it to me so I really wanted to change that about myself.
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Ams, June 7, 2010 at 7:54 PM
Something that changes once you get married is the way others regard you. I find that a lot of people assume that Jack and I do everything together. If I'm invited out then they think Jack has to be invited too, and vice versa. I sometimes wonder if certain people avoid planning things with me because they want to do an all-girls event and don't want a guy there; as if Jack and I are somehow joined at the hip and are physically inseparable.
Why do people think that as soon as someone gets married their partner has to tag along to everything? I have a firm belief that your independence and individuality does not have to be stunted just because you get married, so it is frustrating to feel like others keep thinking of me as a couple instead of an individual. I try to let people know that I'm available to do things without Jack and that we are both completely fine with each other spending time with other people, but it doesn't seem to always work. I just hope that this way that we're treated doesn't lead us to become one of those stupid couples that cannot do anything without the other one there. Talk about boring and pathetic. I think if I ever get to that point, realizing that my life has become that way will make me regret getting married.
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Ams, August 8, 2009 at 7:34 AM
Congratulations to the beautiful couple who attended our wedding 8 1/2 months pregnant and delivered a beautiful baby boy yesterday! We're very happy for you. And no, we are in no hurry to join your new club. Haha. =P
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Ams, May 25, 2009 at 10:20 PM
I found out today that my co-worker, who is around my age, passed away over the weekend. It was shocking news. One Friday you say bye to someone and on the Monday they're not there. I stared at an e-mail he sent me last Friday after I found out. I couldn't stand looking at it but I couldn't bring myself to delete it. It was a hard day.
I don't know what I would do if I said goodnight to Jack one night and there was no good morning to follow it. I think I would lose my mind. I don't know if I could cope without his companionship. Life is short and I'm thankful for every breath God gives me. I'm so thankful for the blessings in my life, especially the people I have. To see how many people are taking time our of their busy lives to come see us get legally married and celebrate with us is special. We are very appreciateive and do not underestimate how lucky we are. Thanks to all those who are so supportive of our relationship, the wedding, and everything else. We love you.
Rest in peace friend. You will be missed.
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Ams, February 15, 2009 at 11:33 AM
I keep finding out that more and more people I know (around my age) have had or are having babies. The latest couple to be expecting is our friends Tony and Tracy. We went to their wedding back in September 2007. It doesn't even seem that long ago and now they're going to bring their first child into the world. Time goes by so fast. Congrats Tony and Tracy.
Man I need to lemon my elbows. =/
[edit] After viewing this site on Internet Explorer I have discovered that this crappy browser warps pictures. ARGH! Stupid inferior browser. If you're using IE, switch to firefox! This picture will look awesome in it! [/edit]
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